Friday, January 8, 2010

Backhanded Compliments

I know it is awkward for people to be supportive when I am trying to lose weight. "Oh good for her, but what do I say?" So this post isn't to make anyone feel bad; I am sooo greatful for all of your comments and support, please keep it up. I read ALL posts. I havn't responded to many posts specifically because I am not sure if people go back to check the posts, I'm new to blog etiquite. Anyway, I have found that when people are trying to be supportive, they often end up putting their foot in their mouth in a big way. I THINK IT IS FUNNY, PLEASE DON'T HOLD BACK, I DON'T CARE. (I'll laugh now and resent you later, when I am skinier than you). Joke. Anyway, here are some "Backhanded Compliments," some that I have actually recieved, and some that I just made up which show the "spirit" of the comments I have recieved (again, not talking about blog posts). Please comment and add your own favorite backhanded compliments from the less self-aware among us.

Backhanded Compliments

“You really remind me of this girl on the biggest loser; she is really energetic and funny”

“If I were you I would never have the guts to run outside”

“You have a really pretty face”

“I love talking to you about my exercise goals. You are the only one I know who can REALLY say what it’s like to be fat.”

“You are so strong to be doing this, I mean; you have to work so much harder than everyone else.”

“You’re not like other girls who say they are fat to be cute, you are like really honest.”

“I love being your friend, cause I never feel threatened by you, you’re just so normal, ya know?”

“Now that I read your blog I feel a lot better about myself when I look in the mirror.”

“Wow, you gained almost 50 pounds after the baby? Your husband must be really, really supportive.”

“So you’re a little heavy, at least you don’t have to box up your maternity clothes.”

“At least you don’t have to spend a lot of time finding an outfit that is flattering.”

“Shopping must be such a breeze for you; there are only a few things to choose from.”


  1. Don't feel bad!
    I've had friends accuse me of being bulimic! Like "how can you eat so much and not weigh 300 lbs?" I tell them its because i run
    So you can never win w/ SOME people

  2. I don't have any backhanded compliments but I like Cartmen's quote from South Park "I'm not fat! I'm big boned"

  3. This kind of reminds me of all the comments I get when I have all my kids in "Is this going to be your last one?", or, "You're done having kids, right?" and a really stupid one is, "You know what causes that, right?" What can you do but just laugh, and keep on keeping on?

  4. "I'll laugh now and resent you later, when I am skinier than you"
    Okay I know I just left a comment but I have to say this line killed me!

  5. I love these comments. I have heard many. My favorite was
    "You're my best friend cause you're the only one that is fatter than me and I can feel superior to."
    Don't ya love it when people are being supportive!