I am a person very guilty of living by the mantra, "If everyone likes me, everything is fine." Wouldn't it be funny if someone toll-painted that quote on a decorative, wood, wall-piece to hang above their hearth in place of "Home is where the heart is." I guess my in-your-face saying would be honest but defiantly a little jarring and awkward for the guests.
I've said many times that I NEED your comments, and really I HAVE needed them to feel validated, worthwhile, and accepted. But I have come to the realization that when I am out there sweating like a dehydrated pig, or making choices about what to eat, unfortunately I am usually by myself and don't have the benefit of your motivating comments. So I am working on something new--becoming my own biggest fan. Not in a narcissistic way, but in a healthy, "Self, you can do this, and you know you can," way. Please feel free to comment, and I will comment back--but do not feel obligated. If I continue on my weight loss journey depending on other people, I will end up a skinny person full of self-doubt. I have come so far, and I have worked so hard, but a voice inside still sometimes says "You haven't worked hard enough." And it is this voice that makes me want to give up and just be what I think I am--a Fatty. So as head of my own fan club here is my first comment to myself--Good job working hard and allowing yourself to not be perfect, because no one is.